The Art of Being a Trustworthy Friend: Reflections on Trust, Privacy, and True Support

Friendship is a nuanced, layered experience. We often celebrate friends for their fun company, shared adventures, or the comfort they bring in everyday life. But what truly defines a dependable and trustworthy friend goes beyond the surface. It’s about holding space for each other’s vulnerabilities, respecting privacy, and being someone your friends can count on when it matters most.

The Power of Manifestation: How I Spoke My Dreams to Reality

 

Large Photo: The Photo on my vision board that I took with Anne on 9th March 2022
Insert Photo: The Two appointment Letters from Stanbic and ESAMI respectively

Oprah Winfrey once said, “You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”
I have come to believe this deeply — not just as an abstract idea, but as a living truth I’ve experienced over and over in my own life. I also strongly believe in the power of the tongue and the power of manifestation.

For years, I dreamed of working in Stanbic Bank. Not just anywhere in the bank — and definitely not in the IT department, even though my background was in technology. I wanted to be on the business side, shaping solutions, influencing strategy, and making a real difference for customers.

The problem? I couldn’t see how it could ever happen. It felt like an oxymoron — “techie” but no desire for a traditional tech role in a bank. Still, the dream wouldn’t let me go...

On Men, Suicide and Mental Health. Warning!! Might. Be. Triggering

Eighteen years ago I lost one of my three elder brothers to suicide. It was a Tuesday morning when I got the Call from my eldest brother. He called me on my friend's Phone because I had put off my phone trying to block out the noise of the world. Something I used to do occassionally...  

The night before this call, I had texted my eldest brother Cobz off my friend's phone informing him to reach me through her if he or any family member needed to. It was as if my spirit new that night, that I would need to be reached out to with some big news... But nothing could have prepared me for what was to come. The conversation went like this:

THE REBIRTH

In My Grown Woman Era

It has been a minute.... In fact, more than a minute since we last blogged. (2017) to be exact. And yes I know some of you missed the blogging (like two of you asked why I stopped ☺) and I appreciate all of you that used to take the time to read my thoughts penned down. To be honest I didn't really think people actually read my posts or that they cared, so when I stopped blogging I didn't feel like it was a big deal. However, over the years I would meet people who knew me from blogging and they would tell me how an article spoke to tem or inspired them and I would be humbled, but still wasn't motivated to write. And eventually in the subsequent blogs we shall get into the why and what that journey has been like. Anyway, all this to say, I have missed all of you (the ones who used to read the posts). I have been through so much transformation over the last 8 years as you can imagine.